If you follow me on Twitter, you will likely have noticed that I have this sort of tradition, habit, whatever you want to call it. Every morning (Monday – Friday, at least), my very first tweet will be a friendly reminder to love yourself. A gentle reminder to be a little less hard on yourself and to realize you are doing the best you can. A reminder that sometimes it’s ok to not be ok. They’re just some simple encouraging words that someone may just need to hear that morning.
good morning…if you’re in a rough patch like I am, remember that it’s ok to not always be ok…you're doing your best…ok, love you – bye. pic.twitter.com/kXikzhWRPY
— Jenn (@JennAndTheCity) January 19, 2017
It started out innocently enough. I sent one out one morning, to be honest – it was more so for myself than anyone else. I needed that reminder that day. I was surprised with the feedback, though. People thanking me, both publicly and in private DMs, for the encouragement and kind words; letting me know how much they appreciated reading it and how it put an instant smile on their face.
good morning, gentle reminder that it’s ok to not always be ok…life isn’t always easy – but you’re doing amazing, ok…love you, bye.
— Jenn (@JennAndTheCity) November 21, 2016
I continue sending out these messages every morning, and they increasingly get more popular. The number of retweets and likes keep increasing, but more importantly – more people are seeing the tweets and benefiting from them. And I’m benefiting from them.
good morning, just a friendly reminder that I’m proud of you and that I believe in you…ok, love you – bye.
— Jenn (@JennAndTheCity) January 2, 2017
My readers and followers know that I battle depression and anxiety. This is not new news to anyone. I don’t try to hide this fact at all. I think that talking about it is one of the ways to help remove the stigma surrounding mental health, and talking openly about our battles can actually be therapeutic. By sharing my struggles, it helps those who are battling their own demons silently, realize that they are in fact not alone. It also helps to show that the shiny, glossy, happy life you normally see online isn’t all it’s cracked up to be.
I’ve had a great couple of months lately. Life has been great. I’m surrounded by amazing people, and there are great things on my horizon for 2017…but just because everything is going great, doesn’t take away from the battle I’ve been fighting all of my life.
I haven’t slipped into a depressive state for quite a while, but over the past few days – I can feel the shift. It’s unpleasant, to say the least. I’m trying to be proactive and do whatever I can to avoid hitting a bad low – but it’s not easy.
Real life isn’t always the silly selfies you see online. Real life can be hard; real life can be exhausting. There will be those days where you feel down and out; those days where you feel frustrated and angry. Those days where you will just want (and maybe even need) to just shut out from everyone and everything…and that’s ok.
A friend once told me: Life has no perfect symmetries. But pleasant reflections of chaotic perfection.
Life isn’t perfect. I’m not perfect. But my perfect imperfections are what make me, me.
I know that this rough patch shall pass. I know it will, I’m just hoping it passes sooner rather than later. If you’re going through a tough time yourself – reach out to someone, anyone…heck, even me – if you want. It’ll help, I promise.