It’s becoming more and more difficult to remain optimist and not become jaded in this crazy thing we call the dating scene.
After suffering through heartbreak, and finding the courage to open ourselves up again – only to have it all come crashing down, yet again – will leave a sour taste in anyone’s mouth.
A friend recently asked me, “How do you do it? Remain optimistic and hopeful after everything you’ve been through?”
I paused for a moment, and actually questioned myself.
How do I do it?
How have I not become jaded and angry?
The answer was simple. The best response I could come up with was an ever so fitting Maya Angelou quote.
“Have enough courage to trust love one more time and always one more time.”
While wearing my heart on my sleeve hasn’t always been the wisest of choices – it is one I will continue to happily make.
I dive in.
I give everything my all – and not just in my relationships.
I’m passionate in life.
I’m passionate about life.
There is no grey when it comes to me.
It’s all or nothing.
I worship you – or I want nothing to do with you.
She opened up, tore down the walls – and put everything out there.
I connected with this post on so many levels, so much so that I have actually gone back and reread it many times.
Giving everything I care about my all is second nature to me. I do not know any other way.
I have always been optimistic and hopeful.
Even when I’ve hit my rock bottom and the depression got the best of me, when I couldn’t leave my bed for a week, when I was in the hospital staring at the ceiling wondering why I was still breathing – when all I wanted to do was give up – something, some little voice inside of me wouldn’t allow it.
One day, one day soon – I hope to find the courage and the words – to explain to you all exactly what’s happened.
But for now – know that life changing events have taken place over the past couple of years.
I look at life differently now.
I look at every experience as a learning experience.
Every single thing that happens – every heartbreak we suffer, every job we lose, every new friend we make – everything happens in order for us to grow.
Growth is a lifelong experience.
People come into our lives for a reason.
Maybe to teach us something new, maybe to remind us of something we had forgotten.
Just as these people come into our lives, inevitably – they will also leave.
What we have to do is appreciate the time we spend together for what it is – a learning experience.
Start looking at life like this.
Take each experience as a lesson and realize everything happens for a reason.
You may not understand the reason at first, and that’s ok.
You’ll go through a rollercoaster of emotions after any given experience – but the fact of the matter is that you will get through it, and you will learn something from it.
Each relationship you have; each heartbreak you suffer – or inflict – happens for a reason.
So whether your relationship lasted one year, 10 years, or even just one month – that person was in your life for a reason.
Take these experiences and learn from them.
Better yourself. Grow.