Letting Go And Starting Over After A Break-Up

After a break-up, nothing in the universe can stop you from letting go and starting over.


I’m the type of person who goes all-in. I give my all, my whole heart – loving unconditionally and fully. Jumping in without worry of consequences. Then, when things don’t work out as I had hoped – I’m left questioning myself, my worth – wondering what it was that I could have done differently. What is it that either of us could have done differently? But, it’s just not that simple. It’s never just that one thing that could have changed.

Sometimes, no matter how badly you want something to work out – it just isn’t right.

Life happens. Things happen – and you may not ever know exactly where things went wrong – but the fact of the matter is that they did, and you have to move on.

So then what do you do? I mean, besides spend a weekend surrounded by friends and family, and lots of wine – of course.


Well, you have to process the emotions you’re feeling. Actually allow yourself to feel them. You have to realize that it’s ok to be sad; it’s ok to be hurt. It’s even ok to be angry, and it’s certainly ok to cry. You have to let yourself feel these emotions in order to move past them.

When things ended – I was angry, but more so with myself than with him. I was angry for allowing myself to be vulnerable, for allowing myself to fall so hard and so quickly. I was left questioning if the whole belief system I had built around fate and the universe was actually real.

I had to let myself feel that in order to realize, yes – it is real and I still believe wholeheartedly.

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Do I regret it though? Do I regret jumping all-in? Not at all, not one bit. I will always be that girl that loves so much more. It’s just in my nature, I’m a hopeless romantic – through and through. I’ll always take a chance at love.

I’ll be posting more about how to work through a break-up, but for now I just wanted to put it out there that I still believe. No matter how crappy break-ups can be (and believe me, they suck), they happen for a reason. As cliché as it sounds, it’s true – people come into and subsequently leave your life at the right time, for the right reasons.

Everyone brings a lesson into your life – sometimes you just have to take off the rose-coloured glasses to actually see it, and finally see the whole truth.

That’s the thing about life and love – you have to take chances and put yourself out there and believe that in the end, the universe will reward you and fate will work her magic.