So it’s happened again, has it?
You’ve gone out on a date and the night went off without a hitch.
You laughed, you chatted, you shared a great bottle of wine.
You thought you both had a great time.
But now it’s been four days and you’re left wondering “What the…?” because you haven’t heard back from them.
No second date on the horizon.
Well…what happened this time?
Seriously – they key to obtaining a second date is showing them you are interested in them.
This really isn’t all that hard to do either!
To help, here are some of my tips for sealing the deal and securing a second date.
1. Put your phone down.
Nothing says “I’m not interested in you or anything you have to say,” like constantly checking your phone.
And this is coming from someone who is literally addicted to her phone.
I always put my phone away when out on a date. So, if you see me off of Twitter for a prolonged period of time – chances are I’m on a date.
Friend: “How was your date? I saw you weren’t tweeting all night…so it must have been good!” Me: “I wasn’t on a date…I was hungover.”
— JennJenn (@JennAndTheCity) June 21, 2015
Twitter will be there later…spend this time getting to know your date.
If there is something you absolutely must check, be it a score of a sporting game (#GoSports) or whatever it is – excuse yourself to use the washroom and check it QUICKLY while away from the table.
2. Don’t be a douche.
Personally, as a former server – I am always well aware of how my date treats our server.
If you’re rude or demeaning – it’s not a cute look, boo.
That shows you’re arrogant and think way too highly of yourself. #ByeFelipe
On the other hand – it’s wise to not be overly flirtatious with others when out on a date.
Save the flirting for your date.
3. Be inquisitive…but not intrusive.
Duh! It’s a first date! Ask questions!
Sure – you may have chatted a bit before through the likes of Tinder/POF/Coffee Meets Bagel/WhatsApp/Texts/Twitter/whatever else you’re using to find dates…but connecting in real life is completely different.
Engage in conversation and be genuine.
Ask questions, but don’t be too intrusive and stalker-esque.
4. Throw the rule book out the window.
Forget the “three-day rule.” Just forget it.
It’s so easy to communicate with one another nowadays.
If you had a good time – let the other person know.
Make solid plans to do it again – set a date.
Don’t leave it up in the air and think you’re “playing it cool” – you’re not.
You’re giving off the impression that you actually aren’t interested in seeing the other person again.
You can “keep it cool” by saying, “Hey, I had a great time on Wednesday night. Are you free on Saturday? I’d love to see you again!”
Or better yet – put the ball in their court by asking them to message you when they get home after your date.
Shows you’re interested in continuing getting to know them – and you’re genuinely concerned that they’ll make it home safely.
5. Put down the sauce, sweetheart.
It’s simple. Don’t get drunk.
This is pretty straight forward.
However, you’d be surprised how many people mess it up though.
And no…I’m not going to name names. I know they’re reading this and they’ll take the hint.
Don’t get drunk – it’s not cute, ok?
All of this being said – you also have to gauge the situation and read your date.
Does it seem as though they are actually interested in a second date as well?
If so – make your move!
What are some of your sure-fire ways to secure date number two?