Oh, Look – There’s Jenn Again…Look At Her Sucking At Adulting #TypicalJJ

I see people around me, with so much more responsibility – spouses, kids, multiple jobs, mortgage payments, hiding their receding hairlines, dealing with that one lone nose hair that refuses to give up, (it’s like – go away Hairy Larry* – no one likes you!) and I wonder to myself, “How the heck do they do it?!”

Then I’m left feeling like complete dirt about myself, more so than normal, because these functioning adults are kicking butt at adulting and doing all the adulting they can…and I’m sitting here having wine and ordering pizza for dinner…again.

I mean, not that there’s anything wrong with wine and pizza.

They’re two of my most favourite things in the whole entire world…but I mean, put a vegetable in your body once in a while, Jenn. Sheesh.

So as I stuff my face with another slice, slurping down wine in between bites – I had to wonder to myself…

Why are we all so hard on ourselves?

I think I know why I am on myself. Part of it is because of those two ***holes Depression and Anxiety. Yeah. Remember them? Those sonofaguns will make you feel so terribly about yourself and then have you believe that everyone around you is thinking and feeling the same way about you.

Oh, look – there’s Jenn again. Look at her sucking at adulting. #TypicalJJ

Well, bugger off you Negative Nancy’s*. YOU DON’T KNOW ME! You don’t know the struggle I have every day just to get out of bed, let alone brush my hair. It’s a frustrating feeling when you feel lost.

I was feeling stuck. I was feeling like just giving up. I felt like I was getting to the point where I just wanted to throw in the towel and say, “Screw it!” to everything I had been working towards for the past few years.

My closest friends could see it in me. They saw that something was “off.” I was the typical JennJenn they knew and loved – and were worried. Some told me to just relax and that I was doing fine at adulting.

…others told me that I had changes to make and priorities to set if I wanted to achieve the goals I had set myself.

Those, those were the ones who were right.

It was time I took some time for myself and put myself first. It time for me to refocus and find myself again. I knew that if I stayed here in the city over the long weekend, one of two things would have happened.

  1. I would have partied away the weekend waking up every morning with a taste of regret and likely vodka (and pizza, let’s be honest) in my mouth.
  2. I would have hibernated away in my apartment under the covers of my comfy bed and not spoken to anyone or done anything for the entirety of the weekend.

And let’s face it – neither of those were a very healthy idea for bettering myself. So what did I do?

mental note: make this solo trip an annual thing from now on

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Well -I hoped on a plane and headed down south for some sunshine, sand, smiles, and solo time in Cuba.

Rando Dando JJ Fact: this was my first rEaL vacation since 2012. I’ve been on weekend getaways and press trips for the blog…but as for a real vacation – yeah, it had been 4 years.

All that alone time though, with little to no internet connection had me circling back to that same thought about being hard on ourselves. There I was, on a little 4-day vacation (over a long weekend, at that) and yet I was still stressing out because I couldn’t connect to the internet to respond to what I could only imagine was the 1,576,324 emails coming in.

Oh, hello anxiety – there you are my old friend. And here I thought I may have left you back in Toronto. Womp.

Well, by the time day three of my trip came around – something had just shifted. I didn’t wake up stressing about the emails. They’d be there when I got home. I didn’t stress out about what was going on back home at the office. I didn’t stress out about anything, really. My biggest concern was what I was going to put in my omelette at the buffet that morning and how quickly I could hit the beach.

…I could get used to this whole “beach life” thing

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That’s when it hit me. I really AM way too hard on myself. We’re all way too hard on ourselves. We just need to take it a little bit easier on ourselves and we’ll get what we need to get done.

The emails will be there; the phone calls can be returned.

By taking some time for myself I was able to come home feeling refreshed and refocused and ready to take over the word.

sunshine, sand, and smiles #JJinCuba

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Ok, maybe not that last one…but who knows!

*Authour’s note: Not all Larry’s are hairy, I know this…but it sounded funny, so I went with it. No offence, Larry.
**Author’s Note: Not all Nancy’s are negative, but I once met one who was the biggest Debbie Downer*** I had ever met.
***Author’s Note: Dammit, this is getting out of hand

CONTEST | Eligible Magazine presents The TIFF Bachelor Party

TIFF Bachelor PartyYou guys know how much I love all things The Bachelor / The Bachelorette / Bachelor In Paradise – so when I heard that some of the studs from the most recent seasons of each would be at Eligible Magazine’s TIFF Bachelor Party – I was excided…to say the least.

Judging from how much my Twitter followers engage while I live tweet the shows – I know there are plenty of other fans out there too. So…lucky for you guys, I’m giving away a pair of general admission tickets to the party!

At Eligible Magazine’s TIFF Bachelor Party,  Tenley Molzhan, Robby Hayes, Vinny Ventiera, Jared Haibon, and Brett Melnick will all be there. You’ll be schmoozing with them and I have a feeling they’ll be more than happy to pose for a selfie or two…if you ask nicely!

The TIFF Bachelor Party Info

Date: Friday, September 16, 2016

Venue: The Everleigh, 580 King St. W. M5V 1M1

BUY TICKETS HERE

Enter below to win a pair of general tickets! Good luck, and I hope to see you there!

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*Note: The contest is open to anyone, however you are responsible for your own travel costs…the prize is ONLY two tickets into the party.*

CONTEST | End Of Your Summer With #AromaAndChill

#aromaandchill aroma espresso bar

*sigh*

…It’s about that time, guys.

The days are getting shorter, the temperatures are cooling down; the CNE is here and all of the stores are filled with back-to-school specials.

It’s official – summer is winding down and coming to an end. womp womp

Living here in Toronto, we need to embrace our summers as much as humanely possible, because we only get a short time to do so!

These few months with sunshine and warmer temperatures fly by so quickly if you blink, you’ll miss them! *

*not really, but it sure will feel like it when we’re hit with our first snowstorm…

aroma espresso bar drinks

So, what should one do to end of their summer with a bang?

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Take Me Out To The Ball Game With Sonnet Insurance

#SonnetLovesJays

What do you do when you get an email that says, “Hey Jenn! How would you like to come out to the ballpark with Sonnet Insurance and meet Kevin Pillar?”

Umm, easy – you respond with a very enthusiastic “YES, PLEASE!!”

And that’s exactly what I did a couple of weeks ago.

Sonnet Insurance Blue Jays Uniform

If you’re a Blue Jays fan and have been to a game this season, I’m sure you’ve seen the Sonnet signs around the Rogers Centre. If you haven’t been to a game yet, they’ve also been heavy supporters on Twitter – sponsoring the weather report and letting the fans know whether or not the dome would be open for each game.

On top of this, Sonnet is celebrating the Blue Jays all season long with some exciting events. First up, was the day they invited me out – Kevin Pillar Bobblehead Day. On July 24th, the first 20,000 fans into the Rogers Centre were gifted with a Kevin Pillar bobblehead…but luckily, our group had them waiting for us when we entered the suite, along with a few other goodies. (!!!)

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The Art Of The Limited Edition Vintage Ink Merlot Cabernet

#MyVintageInk Vintage Ink Wines

Tattoos are often associated with rebels; with people who are lashing out for whatever reason. We’ve all heard the story…16 year old girl goes out and gets a tattoo as an act of rebellion against her strict parents. Blah, blah, blah.

While yes, this may in fact happen…in reality – tattoos are a form of art.

Tattoos should be viewed as a way of one expressing themselves. They can serve as mementos for certain life events, reminders of a past time…or maybe they are just something you’ve gotten to make you smile.

When you get a tattoo you are telling a story. There is a meaning behind WHY you chose that specific tattoo and why you chose to have it permanently on your body. There are memories tied to the story, and the memory of getting the tattoo just adds to it.

Case in point, my most recent tattoo:

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I Have A Confession To Make…I’ve Been Faking It

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Have you ever had a moment where you looked at a picture of yourself, and just didn’t recognize what you saw in front of you? That happened to me the other day. This past weekend, I had to get some filming done for a video submission that was due this week – so my friend Jen graciously offered to come downtown and help me out. So we spent all day and night Sunday filming different clips, and then later that night I pieced them together to create my submission. As I laid in bed, at almost midnight, I re-watched the video again and again. I was just so uncomfortable with what I saw, how I looked.

Not for nothing, I pulled a muscle in my arm earlier that week and was comatose for the majority of the weekend until I was finally able to move again on Sunday without crying out in pain…so that MAY have had something to do with how exhausted I looked, but nonetheless…

If you’ve been following me on social media, or even here on the blog, you’ll know that over the past few months there have been some changes in my personal life. On top of that, what you wouldn’t know, is that there has been a lot more going on as well, professionally and personally.

Basically – I’ve hit a rut.

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Dear 16 Year Old Jenn Jenn…

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Dear 16 year old Jenn Jenn,

I’m writing you to let you know that no matter how hard life seems right now – it will get better. I know you are frustrated, and that you feel alone. You feel uncomfortable in your own skin and unsure of what the future holds…but believe me when I say it’ll all be worth it.

Those kids making fun of you for being so skinny and not wearing make-up, ignore them. Because soon enough you will grow into a beautiful, independent woman who will be so strong-willed that you won’t take that kind of crap from anyone anymore. You will know your worth, finally – and you won’t settle for anything less than you deserve.

Keep writing. Write down every thought and feeling that comes your way. Carry around a notepad because you will never know when inspiration will strike. It could be a sudden warm breeze that you feel through your hair on a summer evening that’ll inspire you to write about how free you feel, or it could be those late nights you spend lying in bed wide awake, mind racing, when you’ll be motivated to share your deepest secrets. These inspirational moments can strike at any time and you want to be prepared because that’s when the good stuff comes – when you least expect it.

Stay true to who you are. Don’t change your beliefs and your morals just to fit in. It’s ok to be different, it’s better that way. You see things, the world, in a different perspective. Keep that optimism and faith in humanity, because lord knows we need more of that.

When it comes to dating and relationships – slow down. Slow down, and before you even begin to think about allowing someone else to love you – love yourself.

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Exploring And Creating With The New 2017 Fusion Energi Platinum

Fusion Energi Platinum

Fusion Energi Platinum

A couple of weeks ago I was invited out to celebrate the launch of the brand spanking new 2017 Fusion Energi Platinum. After meeting the group of fellow bloggers down in the historic Distillery District – we were given a brief presentation highlighting some of the new features of this gorgeous car.

Fusion Energi Platinum

Meet the all-new 2017 Ford Fusion Energi Platinum

When it comes to embracing boundary-pushing electric vehicle technologies and exploring their potential, Ford is making strides today with our sights set on the vehicles of tomorrow.

And the next step towards this future is something to really embrace—meet the all-new 2017 Fusion Energi Platinum. Click on the infographic below to get up close and personal with it.

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Stress Relievers – Take A Chill Pill, JJ

As you can probably guess from my Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, and Snapchat accounts – my life can get very busy. It can be hectic trying to juggle everything at once. From my full-time day job – to writing blog posts; from going to events – to going out on dates; from making the time to hang out with friends and family…it can all be a bit overwhelming and stressful when trying to coordinate everything.

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Side Note: I am not complaining. At all.

I am very fortunate to be in the position I am in and have the ability to do the things that I get to do. Believe me, I know this. But what I have come to learn over the past couple of years is that sometimes you need to take some time for yourself. Take a step back and think about what makes you happy, genuinely, to your core…and do more of that.

So what do I like to do to de-stress when life gets so crazy?
Rub A Dub Dub – Get In The Tub

There is something about filling up your tub with bubbles and/or bath bomb and just soaking away your stress. Seeing as I live alone, I leave my bathroom door open and my dog and cat often come in and lay beside the tub…those darn pervs, watching me take a bubble bath! I usually zone out and get lost in the latest season of Playing House on shomi or bury my nose deep into my latest book. By the time the water has turned cold and I’m all pruney – I get out and feel so much more relaxed than I did prior to hopping in the tub.

Run Jen(ny), Run

music on, the world off – running is my therapy

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Running is my therapy. I have a love-hate relationship with it, but running is seriously one of the things that keeps me sane. I love waking up bright and early, lacing up my fave kicks, and just running. I don’t always plan a route and to be honest, I don’t even always bring my phone. There’s something almost zen-like about being out there alone, running and hearing my feet hit the pavement.

Just never, ever call me Jenny. K? Thanks.

They Say Laughter Is The Best Medicine

jenn and the city toronto skyline stress RelieverI’m out so often for the blog that on the off-chance I do have a night without any work plans, one of my most favourite things to do is to spend some one-on-one time with someone who makes me laugh. We’ll open a bottle of wine and just let the conversation flow. No need to go out to a local hot-spot, no need to get all dolled up – just spending that quality time together is more than enough. And sometimes a view like that one above is part of the package…which isn’t too shabby if you ask me!

Sports, Go Sports

Rogers 4K Blue Jays #LifeIn4K stress Reliever

Ok, I often make the “Go Sports!” joke on Twitter, but the truth of the matter is I am actually a sports fan. While I may not be a “die-hard, be at the ball park or arena every week, know every single stat fan” – I do enjoy watching multiple sporting practices. Shocker, I know. So, as part of the #RogersSI team – when Rogers and Samsung reached out to partner for the launch of 4K streaming of the Blue Jays season – I was excited. Throw in the 55″ 4K TV from Samsung and Rogers’ NextBox 4K Cable Box and I was all set up to catch all of the Blue Jays games on from the comfort of my own home – and I was ecstatic! Having my family or friends over to watch a game is a great way to de-stress. My nieces are becoming baseball fans in their own right, so to have them over to watch the game(s) is a way to build these traditions and memories that will stay with us for years to come. We get to experience #LifeIn4K, “TV like never before with resolution that’s 4 times better than HD alone; with sharper images and realistic picture quality, everything you watch comes to life,” from the comfort of my own home. Really, what more could a gal ask for?

What are some of the ways you like to de-stress when life just gets to be too much and you literally can’t even?

Hit me up on Snapchat and show me!

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Barefoot On The Beach Thanks To Barefoot Wine & Bubbly

Barefoot Wine & Bubbly has proclaimed July 9th World Beach Rescue Day (WBRD) in honor of the 10th year of the Barefoot Wine Beach Rescue Project, an initiative that began in 2007 in partnership with the Surfrider Foundation, a non-profit grassroots organization dedicated to protecting our ocean, waves and beaches.

#WorldBeachRescueDay

We only have one Earth, and we need to start taking the steps necessary to make it a better place for ourselves, and future generations. Barefoot Wine & Bubbly knows this, and has known it for many years. That’s why this Saturday, volunteers in 11 countries around the world will be feeling the sand between their toes as they simultaneously head to the beach for World Beach Rescue Day.

For the past 10 years, this beach-cleaning effort has expanded to more than 14 countries where over 14,000 volunteers have collected more than 20 tonnes of trash from our beaches. That’s 20 tonnes of trash that won’t be polluting our waters! That’s 20 tonnes of trash that won’t be affecting our beaches!

2016 World Beach Rescue Day International Participants

July 9, 2016 World Beach Rescue Day Clean Ups: Australia, Canada, Germany, Mexico, Philippines, Poland, Puerto Rico, Singapore, South Korea, United Kingdom and United States

On Saturday, these volunteers will be outfitted with gloves (safety first, y’all) and reusable bags and will be directed to the areas of the local beaches, shores, rivers, and lakes that need some TLC. After spending the day making the world a little prettier – these lucky volunteers will then be treated to some “delicious food, exciting entertainment, and complimentary Barefoot Wine & Bubbly.”

World Beach Rescue Day from MultiVu Video on Vimeo.

Unable to join in the World Beach Rescue Day clean up on Saturday? You can still join in on the movement by being part of the conversation.

Head to Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter and share a photo of how you are helping clean up our beaches. Use the hashtag #WorldBeachRescueDay and Barefoot Wine & Bubbly will donate $1 (up to $100,000) to Surfrider.

Best of all – this will be going on all summer (until August 31, 2016), so you have lots of time to share your story!

Join the conversation on Twitter and Instagram: @BarefootWine @Surfrider #WorldBeachRescueDay.

While there is still a great deal of work to be done, we’re incredibly proud of the stand in the sand Barefoot has taken in preserving beaches around the world,” said Stephanie Gallo from Barefoot Wine & Bubbly. “We hope World Beach Rescue Day will usher in a greater emphasis on the importance of leaving only footprints on our beaches.

ABOUT BAREFOOT WINE & BUBBLY

Barefoot Wine & Bubbly, the most awarded wine brand in US competitions, can be found bearing the fun, iconic footprint label. For more information, visit:

BarefootWine.com | Facebook.com/BarefootWine
Twitter.com/BarefootWine | Instagram.com/BarefootWine

 
ABOUT SURFRIDER FOUNDATION

The Surfrider Foundation is a nonprofit, grassroots organization dedicated to the protection and enjoyment of our world’s oceans, waves and beaches through a powerful activist network. Founded in 1984 by a handful of visionary surfers in Malibu, California, the Surfrider Foundation now maintains over 250,000 supporters, activists and members worldwide. For more information on the Surfrider Foundation, visit www.surfrider.org

 

Disclaimer: I was compensated for this post, however – as always my views are my own and I truly believe in this cause